But what happens when you don’t know what it means to “love yourself”?
Often times people don’t understand how to love others because they don’t know what it means to love themselves.
So many times we are told we need to be smaller, have longer hair, be more athletic, or have a lighter skin tone. In the midst of all of these messages, self-love is one of the things that is definitely not encouraged.
This poet Ezekiel says it best in his poem, Identity Crisis of a Misfit.
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
– Romans 12:1-2